Turns out that some of the consequences of L.O.V.E include a broken heart.
Whilst not all bank accounts and/or employment contracts can afford jetting off to Bali a la Elizabeth Gilbert in Eat, Pray, Love for a “spiritual retreat.” I found a list of simple tips to help you feel like your normal, rad self again—with or without a passport.
” Let’s face it, a nice creamy chocolate cake does a lot for a lot of people; it does for me.” ~Audrey Hepburn
1. Be Kind to Yourself
As much as you don’t want to peel yourself off the couch to shower, just do it. Even better: leave the house. While exercising may not be your favorite form of indulgence, the payoff in endorphins and self-esteem is worth the effort. Schedule a massage or take a yoga class.
2. Make a List of His Most Annoying Traits
Yank that pedestal …write down ten things (no matter how minimal) that you let slide but really irked you. Keep it on hand to consult every time you catch yourself idealizing him.
3. Cut Off All Contact
Do not call – ever. This is very serious. Not even for the stuff you left in his drawers. This is what the delete button was made for. Block him on Facebook. So what if he misses you? Duh, of course he does! You wouldn’t pick at a scab or it would never heal (or, worse, leave a gross scar). If you need to talk, call anyone but him.
4. Get Quality Male Attention
Your girlfriends are killer when it comes to comforting you, taking you to movies, mani-pedis and telling you over and over how you’re so much hotter and smarter than he deserves. However, there is something especially reassuring about it coming from a really good looking guy. It will remind you of what a great catch you are.
5. Take a Trip
Maybe you can’t make it to Bali without losing your job or defaulting on your student loans and overdraft facility, but there are plenty of short jaunts you can take. Ask a friend or family member if you can come for a visit, or plan a day or weekend excursion that will get you out of town—and, more importantly, out of your head.
What other tips do you have for getting over a break-up? Have you skipped town/city/country for an indefinite amount of time? Did it help?
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